From my observation, girls who end up in stable marriages are those who use their open wisely. By open time I mean; a period where girls just want to have fun.
When a guy asks her for an outing, she comes along with some of her roomies and wonders why he was all frowning throughout the evening and drinking only water.
She shares all her mischief with her friends and they have a good laugh over it. At this stage of their lives , girls see guys as play things ,lamentable ,pitiable species of people that must continually prove their worth.
During this phase any suggestion of a serious relationship is dismissed with contempt reserved for fun.
However today so many girls tend to abuse their open time in one of the following ways ;
The dream man in every grouping or confluence of bachelors and spinsters [church ,club, work place] there is often one suave, smooth seemingly one accomplished guy who is seen as the ideal husband for most girls, he is the man of their fantasies.
Extended playtime; here many belles choose to prolong their play time and eat up all their open time, so they move from open play time to desperation time. One day they are singing ‘’girls just wanna have fun’’ the next day they are desperate for a proposal, a few of them must get away with but most do not.
A delay on your part………….,like those women at campus would say, a delay on your part does not constitute an emergency elsewhere. Just because you are running late does not mean men folk are going to change their behavior. Guys do not want to talk about marriage on the first or fourth date or meet your parents before they are well acquainted with you.
Do not expect the whole world to align itself to your desperation, there are certain things you cannot push, the only thing you will is perusing prospective husbands away from you. Where do you fall???
Written by Christine