Not being able to conceive is far much different from conceiving and losing the baby, it is a devastating situation to have hope of carrying a baby and at the end lose it to unknown circumstances.
People who have that condition really need understanding partners who are able to support them during that time and not criticize for what has happened.
According to Donna kyalimpa (not real names) a house wife, before she had her first child who is now three years old, she had about three miscarriages which occurred recurrently and each doctor who handled her during the different trying moments advised differently.
“I always followed the instructions they gave me but I instead kept on losing my babies and all this happened at 5 to 6 months and all this happened so fast that I could not save any of them,” says Donna.
She says it is always best to seek for help from doctors who specialize in that field immediately you miscarry your first child and strongly advises against basing on hearsay and assumptions made by you caretakers.
“My husband lost hope after I had the third miscarriage, everything changed at home not until a friend of mine took me to her doctor who prescribed some drugs for me. I took the drugs but it was just for the sake of trying to see if they could work for me,” she narates.
After some time she conceived again but says there was no excitement because both her husband and her expected the usual to happen.
“I was so agitated throughout my pregnancy because I expected the worst to happen again so I waited to see the outcome every month that passed by but God showed me his grace and I successfully put to bed that’s when joy returned to my home,” she says.
However, she blames herself for miscarrying the other two babies because she instead based on the other doctors assumptions and neglected seeking help from the fertility specialists.
On the other hand Harriet Amagoro says she always had some pains in the tummy and would sometimes go in her periods, which was abnormal in her condition.
That situation pushed her to go to the hospital for thorough medical checkup where the doctor told her that she was at the risk of losing her child if she did not seek for better medical attention because her womb is weak to hold a baby and anytime it would let go of the foetus.
When she visited the gynecologist, he ran some test on her and prescribed some drugs for her which greatly helped her carry her child though she delivered her daughter at 8 months and this was a normal delivery.
Word from experts
Tamale Ssali a doctor at Women’s Hospital, Bukoto says pregnancy always lasts for 9 months which he simplifies in three stages that is 0-12 weeks, 13-30 weeks. 30 -40 weeks hence making it 280 days in a year.
He says the miscarriages that happen between 0-12 days are always due to the foetus congenital anomalies in that the foetus will have bloated genes that will deform it.
“30% of mothers in Uganda have had miscarriages that happened due to the foetus congenital anomalies and this has happened most especially to first time mothers but when they visit the hospital and are accorded help, they have no risk of losing their second baby,” says Ssali.
However, Hernz Koojo, a doctor at Clinix hospital, Nsambya says that some people lose their babies due to lack of medical attention and consultancy which is common in people who are 13-30 weeks pregnant.
“At that stage, expectant mothers may miscarry due to the existence of some chronic illnesses like diabetes, blood pressure, HIV/AIDs when not maintained so well. Malaria and viral infections should also be treated as soon as the signs are noticed because any delay may cause a miscarriage,” says Koojo.
“There are some environments of growth that do not totally favour the growth of a baby for example if the mother gets an accident, the chances that the mother will miscarry are so high, those with fibroids that are over grown will also cause the foetus to lack where to grow hence forcing it out and a weak cervix can easily open and the foetus finds its way out of the womb though this is common in the first pregnancy,” Ssali explains.
How the person can be helped
Koojo says for those with chronicle illnesses, the person just needs to maintain themselves and always go for constant checkups at their respective hospital not forgetting to take medication as instructed by the doctor.
“People who have recurrent miscarriages due to a weak cervix, the mother may be advised to get a baby through surrogacy though the only difference in this is that the child will be carried by another woman,” says Ssali.
He strongly advises the women with fibroids to constantly go for checkups because fibroids occupy space in the uterus and also generate a lot of heat that greatly affects the baby.
“Sometimes a woman with fibroids may need to undergo c section before the due time due to the fact that the foetus can no longer sustain itself in the womb because it is competing for space with the fibroids,” says Ssali.