Love Languages and Quality Time: How to keep the 'Love Tank' full
Quality time is giving someone your undivided attention. I don’t mean sitting on the couch watching television. I mean sitting on the couch with the TV off, looking at each other and talking, and giving each other your undivided attention.
For some people, quality time is their primary love language, and if you don’t give them quality time, they will not feel loved. Is it possible that your spouse’s primary love language is quality time?
Listen for Clues: Quality time is a powerful emotional communicator of love. One medicine does not cure all diseases. Just as one love language does not communicate emotionally to all people.
If you give your spouse affirming words; If you express love by acts of service; If you touch them affectionately; and they still complain, “You don’t ever have time for me. We used to do things together. Now you are always too busy or too tired,” they are telling you that their primary love language is quality time.
The Essence of Quality Time: A central aspect of quality time is togetherness. I do not mean proximity. Togetherness has to do with focused attention. A husband who is watching sports on television while he talks to his wife is not giving her quality time, because she does not have his full attention.
A husband and wife playing tennis together, if it is genuine quality time, will focus not on the game, but on the fact that they are spending time together.
Dialects of Quality Time: Like words of affirmation, the language of quality time also has many dialects. One of the most common dialects is that of quality conversation. By quality conversation, I mean sympathetic dialogue where two people are sharing their experiences, their thoughts, their feelings, and their desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. If your spouse’s primary love languages is quality time, such dialogue is crucial to his or her emotional sense of being loved.
Sit down. Ask questions, and listen.
Tips for Keeping the Love Tank Full: I want to conclude by giving you four tips on how to have a quality conversation with your spouse:
1. Maintain eye contact when your spouse is talking.
2. Don’t listen to your spouse and do something else at the same time.
3. Listen for feelings. Ask yourself, “What emotion is my spouse experiencing?
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4. Refuse to interrupt. Such interruptions indicate, “I don’t care what you are saying; listen to me.
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Such active listening will fill the love tank of the person whose primary love language is quality time.
Job opportunity for Finance Manager at Crest Foam Mattresses
Organisation: Crest Foam Mattresses
Duty Station: Kampala, Uganda
Job ID: 4141
About US:
Crest Foam Mattresses was established in 1986 and produces the best value mattresses in Uganda – a balance between price and quality. Our product engineers are continuously working to improve our mattresses, in order to ensure customer satisfaction.
Key Duties and Responsibilities:
· Ensure accounting documents are fully verified, authorized and kept securely.
· Ensure maintenance and updating of price list for all company productsconsistent with the price policy.
· Ensure timely submission and payment of all statutory returns.
· Mentor and line manage the Finance team managers by regularly appraising, mentoring and coaching them to improve their performance and that of the department.
· The Finance Manager will develop and continuously review financial strategies, policies and procedures in support of the overall business strategy, financial standards and compliance to statutory requirement by;
· Initiating, formulating, assessing and reviewing financial policies and procedures in order to align them with the business strategy
· Ensuring that all financial policies comply with the statutoryrequirements at all times.
· Providing financial advisory services to the staff, management and the Board.
· Critically reviewing of financial operations to identify opportunities to improve internal controls and streamlining financial business processes in accordance to professional accounting standards.
· The incumbent will ensure timely financial planning and control the implementation of annual budget by:
· Working closely with department heads in the preparation, review, and implementation of the annual budget.
· Authorizing expenditure in line with approved budget.
· Preparing and submitting budgetary performance reports.
· Conduct periodic financial analysis to identify and implement improvement strategies as appropriate by:
· Reviewing Monthly Management Report & Accounts and preparing periodic financial review reports.
· Evaluating and recommending suitable cost reduction opportunities and controls on pricing and credit control management.
· Analyzing budgetary performance and preparing quarterly reports.
· Perform any other duties as may be assigned from time to time.
Qualifications, Skills and Experience:
· The applicant should preferably hold a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration or Commerce
· Professional qualification such as ACCA or CPA.
· At least five years’ experience in a large FMCG / Manufacturing Company with at least 3 years’ experience at senior management.
· Working knowledge of Automated accounting systems
· Knowledge of IFRS/IASs
· Computer literacy i.e. proficient in PC skills (MS word, Excel)
· Strong written and oral communication skills
How to Apply:
All suitably qualified candidates should send their applications by clicking on this link.
Please upload the following in your application; an updated CV / resume (PDF or Word Format) which should include your contact information and three work related references and a one page statement describing your suitability for the role should be included.
Deadline: 21st November 2015
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DATING: How I became a topic of discussion after my pregnancy
The single mum’s lens: Part 2- Humanity is not loyal
If you have not walked in my shoes, dealt with half the issues I have handled, and kept awake crying over the things you wish you could change; you have no right whatsoever to criticize me.
Often times I wondered how I became a topic of discussion especially to a bunch of illiterates whose adult minds could generate only as much wisdom, as to the point of ferrying people for an amount I’d give to beggars on the streets.
Why did they care that I got pregnant at a tender age? There is nothing as annoying as an ignorant low-life, giving his immaterial opinion on a subject that is not of their alarm. When will people ever learn that not every opinion matters?
“Yiiii, some men can be heartless! How can you sleep with such a young girl?” one of the Boda-boda men asked as I crossed from the University gate, transporting my bloated belly to the nearby supermarket. “I stopped feeling sorry for those young girls, unless she was raped,” another interrupted.
“Wama you’re right. Girls of this generation have been possessed by the demon of greed. They want every nice thing they see. You can even find that her boyfriend is old enough to be her dad,” the guy who started the conversation said, as they looked at me with unkindness.
I thought I would find solace in the temple of God, but even his sanctuary was like a haunted house. The people in that place killed my every sense of reverence to “people of God”. I do not want to cry, so I will not talk about them.
In all this, I did not lose my faith in God. In my room, I rehearsed before the lord. I poured out my heart to him. He heard me and has surely sustained me. I wish I could hate whoever was unkind to me, but I can’t. However, I will never forget them.
I did not get the chance to see my grandparents, sadly, my child won’t either. My dad was abandoned by his father at six years. His mum died four years later. My mother was raised by her maternal aunties, she has no clear explanation about what happened to her parents. Perhaps she was abandoned at birth, I do not know.
I thought blood loved even for adversity; not my family. I remember the look on my mother’s face when I returned home that evening with a protruding stomach. Even without mentioning a word, I knew she reviled me. I can still see the spite in her eyes. I thought like a normal parent, she would rebuke me but accept me back. I was wrong! Not even my mother wanted anything to do with me.
Her silence killed me a thousand times with each passing minute. She deliberately made me feel unwelcome. I felt like a stranger at my own parents’ home. My siblings were ordered to stay away from me. I could not handle the silence anymore. I decided to go. As soon as I got up to take my leave, my father walked into the sitting room.
“What is this nonsense I am seeing? Is this why I sent you to school?” Even before I could say a word, my father’s heavy hand landed me on the floor. He beat me like I was not heavy with child, and then ordered me to explain to my siblings how I got pregnant.
I swear, this was the biggest punishment I have ever suffered. Imagine the shame of explaining to your siblings how you got pregnant! Martha looked up to me. She always said she wanted to be tall and pretty and wise like me. But look, I just messed it all up. She cried uncontrollably and walked away.
Dad brought her back amidst flogging. “Why are you leaving? Do you also want to be a prostitute like your sister? Have you started sleeping with men even before you complete senior four?” I could not bear to watch my sister being reprimanded for a mistake I committed. I ran out of the house.
I was six months pregnant at that time, my son is six months now. But until now, my parents have never seen me or the child. I am a disgrace to the family name, and now I am living with the pain of family rejection. But then again, it is okay. I have handled it so far and will continue to bear it.
If you missed Part 1, READ LINK below;
LOVE & DATING: Jacobs was the man any normal girl would want to have
Dating: How I ended up slapping him for his unrealistic love intentions
Job for Accountant at United Nations Regional Service Centre Entebbe
Organization: United Nations Regional Service Centre Entebbe (RSCE)
Duty Station: Entebbe, Uganda
Grade: P3
Vacancy Announcement Number: 15-FIN-RSCE-49298-F-ENTEBBE (M)
Reports to: Service Line Manager and Chief of the Financial Reporting Service Line
About RSCE:
The Regional Service Centre Steering Committee is the decision-making body for RSCE, in compliance with General Assembly resolutions, United Nations Secretariat rules and regulations, strategic guidance from United Nations Headquarters and oversight bodies. The Steering Committee consults with the Global Field Support Strategy Implementation Coordination Team, as required.
The Regional Service Centre, as approved by the Member States, is owned, managed and staffed by the regional missions it serves. This framework reinforces the existing missions’ chain of command structures and lines of authority in a manner that does not create an additional layer between Headquarters and the regional missions. It also ensures that staffing for RSCE will be achieved through the redeployment of resources from the regional missions it serves.
Job Summary: The Accountant will support the United Nations Regional Service Centre at Entebbe (RSCE) by performing a variety of tasks including the maintenance and validation of various operations with respect to accounting, resolution of queries from staff and other UN units, and the preparation of financial statements and bank reconciliation statements for the Centre’s Client Missions.
Key Duties and Responsibilities: Within delegated authority, the Accountant will be responsible for the following duties:
· Keenly analyses accounts and reviews/evaluates regular financial reports for the SPM and Peacekeeping Missions. Identifies problems and irregularities in transactions and related accounts, and ensures resolving them in a timely and effective manner.
· The incumbent approves/Confirms that proposed obligations or expenditure for services, facilities supplies and equipment expenses, as well as those pertaining to personnel, are in accordance with the Financial Regulations and Rules of the UN, relevant appropriations and staffing tables and corresponding approved allotments.
· Renders support in preparing financial statements for Client Missions including in the UN Financial Statements to be audited.
· Ensures accurate and complete accounting records that support reliablefinancial reporting; assists in the evaluation and monitoring of internalcontrol systems for functional effectiveness.
· Quickly responds to internal/external audit observations.
· Provides expert advice and guidance concerning the United Nations’ Financial Regulations and Rules and Accounting Instructions as requested.
· Coordinates and supervises processing of IOV’s, payroll, government and vendor claims, travel, and billing of government accounts.
· Actively monitors, analyses, and approves transactions for entry into the accounting system.
· Defines requirements and works with systems units with respect to production of relevant financial reports.
· Actively participates in the development of accounting policies.
· Provides information needed to respond to audit findings.
· Performs any other related duties as required by the Service Line Manager and Chief of the Financial Reporting Service Line.
Qualifications, Skills and Experience:
· The ideal candidate for the United Nations Regional Service Centre Entebbe Accountant job should hold an advanced university degree(Master’s degree or equivalent) in business administration, finance, accounting or related field. A first-level university degree in combination with qualifying experience may be accepted in lieu of the advanced university degree.
· Certification as a Certified Public Accountant (CPA), Chartered Accountant (CA) or equivalent is desirable.
· At least five years of progressive responsible professional experience in accounting, finance, and budget especially using an ERP system such as SAP.
· Prior experience in IPSAS or IFRS financial reporting will be an added advantage
· Languages: Fluency in English is required; knowledge of the other is desirable. Knowledge of another UN official language is an advantage.
Personal Competencies:
· Professionalism: Knowledge of accounting principles, procedures and standards. Ability to apply conceptual, analytical and evaluative skills in accounting operations. Ability to conduct independent research and analysis, identify issues, formulate options and make conclusions and recommendations. Shows pride in work and in achievements; demonstrates professional competence and mastery of subject matter; is conscientious and efficient in meeting commitments, observing deadlines and achieving results; is motivated by professional rather than personal concerns; shows persistence when faced with difficult problems or challenges; remains calm in stressful situations. Takes responsibility for incorporating gender perspectives and ensuring the equal participation of women and men in all areas of work.
· Communication: Speaks and writes clearly and effectively; listens to others, correctly interprets messages from others and responds appropriately; asks questions to clarify, and exhibits interest in having two-way communication; tailors language, tone, style and format to match audience; demonstrates openness in sharing information and keeping people informed.
· Teamwork: Works collaboratively with colleagues to achieve organizational goals; solicits input by genuinely valuing others’ ideas and expertise; is willing to learn from others; places team agenda before personal agenda; supports and acts in accordance with final group decision, even when such decisions may not entirely reflect own position; shares credit for team accomplishments and accepts joint responsibility for team shortcomings.
· Planning and Organizing: Develops clear goals that are consistent with agreed strategies; identifies priority activities and assignments; adjusts priorities as required; allocates appropriate amount of time and resources for completing work; foresees risks and allows for contingencies when planning; monitors and adjusts plans and actions as necessary; uses time efficiently.
NB: The United Nations does not charge a fee at any stage of the recruitment process (application, interview meeting, processing, or training). The United Nations does not concern itself with information on applicants’ bank accounts.
How to Apply:
All suitably qualified and interested candidates who wish to join the United Nations Regional Service Centre (RSCE) in the aforementioned capacity should Apply Online by clicking here.
Deadline: 27th October, 2015
JOBS: Senior Procurement Officer at Uganda Management Institute
