Sex is an activity that involves two people after reaching an agreement, it is not written in blood that man shall initiate every session.
This stereotype that a man should be the one to initiate sex is overwhelming. In the past, society has required women to play a subservient role in a relationship.
Women who express sexual desires or interest in sex may feel that their actions are socially unacceptable. But is it really always the way things should be?
If in this age and era you judge a woman for shooting her shot, you should move to another planet. There is no crime in women initiating sex.
The advantage of initiating sex as a woman means you set the tone and direction of the encounter. How about having sex your way? Sounds good, right?
If we are waiting for our partners to initiate, we’re missing out on some great sex!
Sharing the responsibility of initiation can be fun and exciting for men and women.
It also helps us feel closer to our partners because initiating sex means showing vulnerability in addition to confidence.
“All people deserve to enjoy a healthy sexual life,” says Nicole Cirino, M.D., Associate Professor of Psychiatry at OHSU’s Center for Women’s Health.
Read through the healthy benefits of sex;
- Lower blood pressure
- Better immune system
- Better heart health, possibly including lower risk for heart disease
- Improved self-esteem
- Decreased depression and anxiety
- Increased libido
- Immediate, natural pain relief
- Better sleep
- Increased intimacy and closeness to a sexual partner
- Overall stress reduction, both physiologically and emotiona among others.
Sex should be passionate and mutual. Do you want sex? Ask for it. Do you want your partner to want it more? Ask for that too.